Wedding Photos: Reception

Photos by The Fort Co. Photography, taken on May 18th, 2019.

It rained all week before the wedding, and for much of the day. We had planned to host our wedding and reception in the park by our house, but due to the rain we ended up having everyone in our home instead. It turned out to be the perfect wedding!

Wedding Photos: The Ceremony

Photos by The Fort Co. Photography, taken on May 18th, 2019.

Due to the rain, we held our ceremony in our front yard, under the pergola, which we covered with giant tarps. Our guests stood under large tents sprawled across the yard and driveway. Our event rental company donated curtains and fresh flowers to decorate the pergola, so that we wouldn’t have the tarps as the backdrop in our photos. The result was beautiful, and I think better than what we’d had planned for the park.

The Wedding Temple

(This brief speech was delivered by Vin, just before the start of the wedding.)

Some of you may have noticed this wooden structure. It is our Wedding Temple, which we are inviting all of you to contribute to as part of celebrating this day. 

The Temple is inspired by the structure first created in 2000 by David Best, for the annual Burning Man festival. For those unfamiliar with Burning Man, it is a week-long event in which people from all over the world come together in the middle of the Nevada desert, also known as “the playa”, to celebrate art, culture, diversity, and life.

While the event is named for the giant wooden man standing in the middle of the temporary desert city, the highlight for us has always been the Temple experience.

Nearly everyone on the playa visits the Temple at least once during the week, leaving behind a piece of themselves written on the walls or placed on the structure. When you walk through the Temple, you’re surrounded by every aspect of the human experience. You’ll find everything from memorials to those lost, mementos, and apologies, to hopes, wishes, goals, and dreams. 

Much of the art erected in the desert is burned near the end of the festival, including the eponymous Man, and the Temple. Saturday, they burn The Man, and it’s always a big party. But on Sunday, when the Temple burns, with all of the contributions that have been made by attendees, there is a solemn silence that falls across the playa. 

In years when we have not gone to Burning Man, we hold our own Mini Temple Burn, using a plain wooden bird house. We write on it and put notes in it, as we would if we were at the Burning Man Temple itself. Then we burn our Mini Temple, standing quietly together and watching the flames until it all turns to ash. 

In honor of these traditions, we decided to have our own Wedding Temple, which we’ve placed in the dining room. We would love for you to write your well wishes, thoughts, experiences, and hopes for our future. We welcome you to also write about something unrelated to us and our day, in keeping with the Burning Man Temple tradition. If you want to share what you’ve written, please be sure to take a photo. While we wanted to complete the experience with a ceremonial burning of our Temple, the weather has not cooperated. We will hold a smaller, private Temple burn at a later date when the weather is better, and we’ll be sure to share our photos and video of that ceremony.

Now, it’s time for the big show! 

Wedding photos preview

We got an initial preview of the wedding photos, and they look amazing! The Fort Co. did a wonderful job, and I can’t wait to see the rest!

Lauber-DeLuca Wedding Ceremony

We were married on May 18th, 2019. The ceremony was held at home, among a crowd of friends and family. This was our ceremony…

Opening

Solenne:  On behalf of Meg and Vin, I would like to thank everyone for being here to witness, celebrate, laugh, eat, and make merry in honor of their abiding love.  They cherish your presence here today, and your love and support enrich their lives immeasurably.  Today, we consecrate a relationship that has given them both so much peace, happiness, and joy.

Address

Solenne:  Through dangers untold and hardships unnumbered, their path has not always been an easy one. I've been friends with Vin for over a decade now, and for nearly as long with Meg. Vin went through a period of time where he was hit with a series of hardships and throughout that time Meg offered undueling support, love, kindness, and patience. She's been an incredible rock of a person and a fantastic partner. I've also watched Vin continue to grow as a person and as a partner, and to become as excellent father figure for Amailah, all motivated greatly by Meg. And when I hear Vin talk about Meg, he lights up, and you can tell by the look in his eyes just how deeply he loves her. It's really beautiful watching these two grow together as a couple. They have such great communication, compassion, humor, and love. I am honored to be officiating their ceremony today.

Reading

Solenne: Now I’m going to read something that was written by Meg in January of 2014… 

“Love does not discriminate. It doesn’t guarantee a worthy recipient, nor a love affair free from worry and heartache. Love is not a ward against manipulation and lies, nor does it ensure a happy ending. Love is messy, and unpredictable, and often arrives unbidden. It comes with baggage, and can expose our worst fears and behaviors to those with whom we’d only wish to show the best of ourselves. 

What we can get from love, though, is unique… It is a fire that can fill us near to bursting, and have us seek it out repeatedly despite the burns we may have gotten. There is such a powerful joy in loving another person, whether family or lover or friend, that it has moved mankind to great purpose for millennia. Love inspires us to create, to improve ourselves, to become more than we already are. It warms us, comforts us, assures us that we are not alone and that our worth is known, at least to a few. 

It is a gift that most everyone wants, and it is something I have never regretted giving or receiving, even in the darkest moments and worst trials.”

Introduction to Vows

Solenne: The vows you are about to make together are, at their core, a commitment to love each other fully - not just today, but tomorrow, the next day, and always.  Now, please declare your vows to one another.  

Vows

Meg: Let us promise to acquire knowledge, happiness, and harmony by mutual love and trust. 

Vin: Let us promise to share our lives openly with one another, to speak the truth, with compassion and love.

Meg: Let us promise to honor and tenderly care for one another, to lift one another towards physical, mental, and spiritual health.

Vin: Let us promise to encourage each others’ fulfillment as individuals, in both mutual endeavors and solo pursuits. 

Meg: Let us promise to take one another as we are, to accept both our faults and our strengths, without unrealistic expectations.

Vin: Let us promise to respect one another’s integrity and have faith in our abiding love for each other through all our years, and all that life may bring us. 

Solenne: These oaths are ever binding, and will be ever present in your lives together. Allow them to inform your daily interactions as well as your long-term choices. Now we will seal these words of honor with rings. A ring has no beginning or end and is therefore eternal, as love should be. Steve, and Shannon, please bring forth the rings. (Rings are handed each to Meg and Vin)

Do you, Vin, vow to uphold the promises you have made here today, in joy and in sorrow, whether in good fortune or in adversity, and doing all in the service of loving one another honestly and truly? 

Vin: I DO.  (Meg places ring on Vin’s finger)

Solenne: Do you, Meg, vow to uphold the promises you have made here today, in joy and in sorrow, whether in good fortune or in adversity, and doing all in the service of loving one another honestly and truly? 

Meg: I DO.  (Vin places ring on Meg’s finger)

Solenne: It is now my honor and delight to pronounce you husband and wife—you may seal your vows with a kiss! (Kissing ensues.)

Now that we have all borne witness to these vows, let us pledge, as family and friends, to stand by Vin, Meg, and Amailah in this new journey together.  (Amailah comes to stand with the couple)

Please stand, and welcome the new family!